Tuesday, 20 May 2008
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There is a Judd Apatow comedy out right now called Forgetting Sarah Marshall. In a nutshell, it’s about a dude who gets dumped by his girlfriend Sarah Marshall, who’s been cheating on him behind his back for over a year. He initially has a hard time dealing with the break-up, but he finds a new love interest on his trip to Hawaii. Sarah Marshall, who is portrayed as a conniving witch, eventually realizes what a great guy she lost in him and asks for him back. He rejects her apologies and ends up with the cute girl from Hawaii. And in classic Judd Apatow style, the movie is full of vulgar humor and full-frontal nudity, which is always rad.
Like all Apatow movies, I found this one to be hilarious. However, I was very much disappointed with the ending. I felt kind of sorry for Sarah Marshall, as she seemed genuinely sorry for being a complete bitch. I felt that she deserved to be forgiven, but the boyfriend dropped her like a bad habit. I’m not sure how everyone else feels about this. I asked my friend Jessica about it in an IM conversation, and she vehemently disagreed with me. However, she also admitted that she thinks Jennifer Love Hewitt is more attractive than Kate Beckinsale, so I don’t know if she was completely sober.
I’m not quite sure how I would have reacted if I were in that situation. I’ve been cheated on once in my life. My high school and college girlfriend Jill and I went to different colleges, and she hooked up with a dude during her first year at UCSC. We broke up and stopped talking for about a year. She never knew that I caught her cheating, and she assumed (I assume) we broke up because I stopped calling her. We became friends again for a while, and I guess that meant that I forgave her, even though she never asked for my forgiveness. I really didn’t hold anything against her. I’m not sure what she’s up to nowadays, but I heard that she live somewhere in butt-fucking Egypt (Orange County). (We don’t talk anymore for completely different reasons. I don’t talk to any of my exes for the simple reason that I can’t take anyone seriously anymore after I’ve seen them naked, but whatever.)
Maybe I’m naïve. Maybe I’m too forgiving. Maybe I’m a pushover. I suppose I’m not the type to hold a grudge. If Sarah Marshall cheated on me and she asked for my forgiveness, I don’t think I would hold her in contempt. I wouldn’t scorn or disdain her. Yeah, she did some really messed up stuff that would have made me angry, but she seemed sincere in her apology. Plus, she's really hot. That’s good for at least one grudge pound.
Oh yeah, this post is rated R for vulgarity and rude humor.
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Comments (11)
I don't think Sara Marshall would've been sorry if her new bf wasn't a jerk and if she wasn't jealous of her old bf's fling with the receptionist girl. And her reasons for cheating was lame. So I don't think she deserves to be forgiven.
I agree with the above. You're forgetting that she went groveling back to him after the other guy dropped HER like a bad habit. And even if he did take her back... it would've been one f-ed up relationship. Especially since she probably had herpes after the last guy.
PLUS, she didn't understand his play and wasn't supportive at all. She just wanted to WIN him back.. it wasn't about HIM.. it was about the game for her. Basically, she was a bitch. I wouldn't let anyone treat me that way. A one-time mistake is one thing... a year-long affair is a whole other unforgiveable monster. I mean, how could you ever trust someone like that again???
i don't know. i think i agree with you, although i haven't seen the movie. i'm a pretty forgiving person... sometimes to a fault. but i also want people to forgive me in return.
Sarah Marshall was doing the whole "you dunno what you've got 'till it's gone" dance, and it's hardly fair. I wouldn't forgive her, or myself, if I were that big of an ass.
I don't think she should have been forgiven. She do what she do, and accept the consequences. If she can't, then she's kind of SOL. I think forgiving someone who cheated for THAT LONG is kind of asking for it.
AND... BFE is a little bit further than OC :P Haha.
I haven't seen the movie. But I think, what's the harm in forgiving her? None. Taking her back is one thing, forgiving her is another. :) I'm w/you. I'd feel bad, too - but I'm a sucker, too.
I didn't know you don't take ppl seriously after seeing them nekked. Good thing you're an eye doctor and not a butt doctor.
No, can't forgive cheating. Might be able to deal with her as a person-but would never trust her. Fuck her, maybe. But that's about it.
I admire people who don't hold grudges and can forgive easily. For me, I gotta work hard on it.
I really want to see that movie, but I'm in the process of getting over a breakup (of sorts) with my own Sarah. (Yes, I am so pathetic about it that I can't see a movie just because it involves a girl with the same name and a similar situation.)
Though I haven't seen the movie, I can say that I couldn't forgive Sarah Marshall. I've always been a forgiving person and never held a grudge, but recent events have changed that. You can't stomp all over somebody's feelings and then expect them to be happy with you because you say you're sorry (pouting does not garner extra points). Especially if it took over a year for her to recognize her shitty behavior. I don't care if you're sincere, live with the consequences, betch.
Then again, the rebound girl from Hawaii doesn't sound like a great relationship situation either.
I generally find that grudge-holding takes more emotional energy than I have at my disposal. Indifference is a nice middle ground between actively forgiving and actively begrudging.