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Someone once said that I have the musical taste of a gay person. This may or may not be true. I don’t know anything about the musical preferences of the gay community. Right now I have Ingrid Michaelson, Liz Phair, Kate Nash, and KT Tunstall on heavy rotation on Last.fm. Do gay people listen to these artists? Probably. I don’t know if this person was trying to imply something about my sexual preferences based on my musical tastes. But, if there is some universal “taste” in music that applies to all homosexuals, and if my taste in music is similar to this, it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m gay. It just means that gay people have exquisite taste in music. And so what if I’m wearing a bright pink dress shirt right now? What the hell do I know? I'm colorblind. I thought it was a manly brown color when I bought it from Nordstrom.
For the record, I am not one of the gays. I like to go on dates with women. And after I go on dates with them, I like to take them back home and sleep with them. I love women. Most of my best friendships are with women, and most of the intelligent discourse I’ve ever engaged in have been with female people. I think women are fantastic! And it sickens me that sexism still exists in 21st century. I don't know if this makes me a fiery liberal, but I don’t support the notion of dragging my woman around by her hair and I don’t advocate the belief that a woman’s place is in the home. I’m sure most modern people would share that sentiment. I support the radical idea that women are people too, and they should be treated just as men are treated. Traditional gender roles are fundamentally sexist, and sexism is fundamentally immoral and wrong. And while it’s true that men have committed various moral crimes against women throughout history, sexism today isn’t perpetuated by men inasmuch as it is by ignorant and dumb bitches.
What is an ignorant and dumb bitch? An IDB is fairly easy to spot. She might have a successful career; she might be self-sufficient. She might even be proud of herself and tout her independence, but the difference between an IDB and a real modern woman is that an IDB is always complaining about her life. She is usually single and unattached because she claims that there isn’t a guy out there who is good enough for her. She is under some delusion that “nice guys” are hard to find because she has an unfounded belief that most men are douchebags. She will never pay for a date, and she is quickly turned off when a man does not open the car door for her. Despite her long history of unsuccessful relationships, she still longs to one day receive an engagement ring from Prince Charming, and that ring should be worth at least three months of his hard-earned salary. An IDB masquerades as someone who believes in equality (as she likes to flaunt being a “career woman”), but when it comes down to it she believes in traditional gender roles, whether she is aware of it or not. An IDB is constantly complaining that chivalry is dead. However, an IDB doesn’t realize that the concept of chivalry is sexist in and of itself. If a man is supposed to be courteous and provide and protect, then is a woman supposed to stay home and cook dinner and shut up? That may have been true 400 years ago, but I don’t want to live in those times anymore. Those days were kind of sexist. An IDB is a woman whose mentality sets women back at least 100 years. She is a fake feminist, and she is the most insidious subversive force against feminist movement.
I'm a real feminist, I just want things to be equal. If you’re a woman, don’t expect your date to pick up the tab or hold the elevator door open for you. There’s nothing wrong with going Dutch (is that racist?) and you can push the damn elevator button yourself. If you’re a woman, don’t expect your boyfriend to blow three months of his salary on an engagement ring. And if he does, give it back to him and put that money in bonds for your children’s future. Trust me, he would be touched and it would be the ultimate expression of love for him. And if you’re a woman, don’t complain about chivalry being dead. Here’s a little secret: most men ARE nice guys because, really, it’s not that hard to NOT be an asshole. If a man acts like a gentleman around you, it’s because he wants to and not because you deserve it. And if you’re a woman who just got pissed off by reading this article, then you’re a sexist pig. Stop perpetuating sexism by expecting things you feel entitled to. I’ll be chivalrous to you if you fold my socks and shut the hell up, if that makes you happy.
I love women, I swear.
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Comments (24)
that's why i never say men & women are equal : P
great post!
Exxxcellent.
Is it sad that as I read your entry, various women I knew that fit into different categories popped into my head?
Wonderful post. :o)
Dude I love Kate Nash. Music typically knows no gender/sex/orientation boundaries.
Now if it were nothing but techno remixes of "The Safety Dance" and "I'm Too Sexy", we might have to say that the statistics are against you.
Do you have any idea how many women my age became feminist because they listened to craploads of of Liz Phair as a kid and then went to college and figured out that there was a whole movement, too? No complaints on your play list :).
But I'm a feminist who also enjoys sleeping with men. I really admire and enjoy nice guys, but then there are self-proclaimed "Nice Guys" who fit this description, guys who I'd rather stick my tongue in a beehive than date: Jeff Fecke explains the "Nice Guy"
Also, thankyouthankyouthankyou for pointing out that chivarly is inherently sexist and that being a decent and respectful human being (as a man or woman) is not dependent on an ancient code of patriarchal conduct.
Haha...the chivalry thing does irritate me. I mean, I'm not going to get angry if you want to hold the door for me when my hands are full or if you get there before me, but that's just politeness. I'm not going to sit in front of a door I'm perfectly capable of opening myself and wait for the guy to come open it, or make my bf pay all the time (even though he tries).
I wouldn't go so far as to say most sexism is perpetuated by IDBs, but I agree that a good deal of it is. and Kate Nash rocks.
Your logic makes sense.
you're not gay doesn't change nothing buddy, if u and I are the only 2 men left on earth, kate beckinsale would still run towards me, even tho ur more handsome than me, i am not even listening to music at all!!! so no chance for me being gay or have that appearance
I don't think yu really like women.. Now do you?
Be honest and stop hiding behind your blog. We know you have ever low opinions of females.
drop dat knowledge. mass props
You're so gay.
I don't think that women should act like they are weak. We had to fight for our rights, yet some women act like they are so damn weak they need men to do everything for them. If I need my TV moved, I'll move it. Women need to realize if we want to be equal we need to act as such.
Just for the record, I have paid for most dinners that my fiancee and I have gone on, I was the one who filled up his gas tank weekly, I paid for everything, because I wanted to spend time with him. So he is getting me a nice expensive ring. I think that's fair :P
:) Just saying.
haha: your musical taste isn't so much gay as it is lesbian. so, so lesbian.
Completely agreed with your post.
Completely.
Lol, I think your argument on the other thread will probaly do you some good traffic wise. Whilst I might not agree with you, at least your arguments stand up on their own. Though, do you not think it is cruel and unfair on the women you put down just so you can sleep with them? Lowering their self-esteem is immoral, too, I think.
Anyway. I agree wholeheartedly with this post! You are so completely right about people like that, it really infuriates me all of the time. Equal means equal. Though the thing with holding open doors etc. I think is something that everyone should do for everyone else, though it is more about politeness than anything else! I would hold a door for a stranger, male or female. And I completely agree about splitting the bill.
Chivalry is dead, and it's a good thing!
I am totally gay, and I definitely listen to those artists. But I also listen to Coldplay and Green Day, U2 and Britney Spears. I am Canadian, so I have a hidden affection for Avril and all things Barenaked. I am not a right out feminist either. I support equal rights, and rights for women, but I support equality for all. I push the button of the elevator for my partner, and she carries my groceries once we are done shopping. I push the buggy... so does that make me more straight than gay?! Meh... to each their own, you know? Chivalry is a good thing, as long as you decide at the beginning that you go dutch all the way.
but men and women are not built equally (in the sense of human anatomy...our intelligence even come from different parts of our brain) which explains why we have different needs. I am not saying women need to rely on men nor men need to spoil women, but what you're saying isn't really equality...I mean how many men do you know get pregnant and has to suffer the pain of giving birth? This is more like measuring the size of a room and a body of water with a ruler.
and for the comment where its said "chivalry is dead and it's a good thing" I also think chivalry is a practice that should be extend to both male and female alike...it is the lack of it that has created a whole lot of me me me...the walmart incident is a fine example of that.
this coming from a man who treats them like shit.
i never made that march dude! i appreciate a man who is willing to be my standard of a man and usually a man that can stand up to that is the kinda man i wanna be a woman for. you dont want to be with a girl like me because of ur desire to make a woman equal in a manly way very much in the same way that i wouldnt want to be with a guy like you for that same reason. different strokes for different folks i suppose. perhaps u would consider me an idb but i like a man to make me feel special. good luck
Isnt that the whole point of feminism? for men and women to be considered equal?
Still don't like you for comparing them to toilet paper last time, but you have a point.
heh. i can't stand it when females demand chivalry but refuse to accept the mentality that accompanies it.
if you're going to take the benefits of feminism, take the cost, too.
:)
your logic is delightful.