Monday, 06 April 2009

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  My Relationship Advice

  (This post was inspired by Jay-Z's 99 Problems.)
  

  I don’t know exactly what the purpose of being in a relationship is, but I have an idea.  It’s nice to have someone to have dinner and go to weddings with.   It’s good to have someone to talk to and confide in, it’s great to connect with someone on emotional, intellectual, and spiritual levels, and it’s fantastic to have someone to hang out with when there’s nothing better to do.  But, regardless of what we want to believe, no one “deserves” to be in a relationship.  That’s why it’s especially rewarding when we’re lucky enough to find someone to be in one with. 

  Relationships make life easier and more bearable, and this is why I’ve never understood why people put up with relationship problems.  Life is hard enough, and a relationship with problems just makes life more difficult.  The only thing worse than having relationship problems is seeking relationship advice.   Seeking relationship advice is a vain attempt at solving problems that shouldn’t exist in the first place.  These are attempts by insecure people to hold on to things that they want to feel they deserve.  Sometimes the security of companionship clouds the focus of what the purpose of a relationship should be, which is to make life easier.  If you are having problems in your relationship, then you don’t need advice.  You need a new relationship.

  If you need to seek advice from your friends, I’m sure they’ll gladly listen, but they’d rather not hear it.  They’ll tell you what you want to hear, but this is what you need to hear: 

  • If you need advice because you think your boyfriend doesn’t pay attention to you, then you need a new relationship. 
  • If you need advice because your girlfriend keeps cheating on you, then you need a new relationship. 
  • If you need advice because it bothers you that your boyfriend doesn’t care about things that you care about, then you need a new relationship. 
  • If you need advice because you’re not satisfied that your girlfriend won’t perform the sexual acts you fantasize about, then you need a new relationship. 
  • If you need advice because you’re addicted to drama, then you need a new relationship.

  If you are having problems in your relationship, then you don’t need advice.  You need a new relationship.  And if you’re not ready to hear that, then you need to be alone.

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